Talking to a dear friend yesterday, after a long very long lapse. No matter, though. She's one of those with whom we just pick right up where we left off. No linear time stuff. Love that part!
We got to talking about forgiveness. About how she'd been really pissed off at god and felt really bad about that. Actually, the word she used was 'ashamed'. Ashamed that she was pissed off at god. When her hubby heard her say it out loud the first time, he was shocked. Not that she was P.O.'d. But that he hadn't realized she was there. When he told her he thought it was perfectly okay...that she needn't be ashamed, she said that she felt the greatest sense of relief...and right after that...forgiveness. She forgave herself. And then...she moved onward. NICE!
So we got to expanding on all that and I mentioned how it used to be so hard for me to forgive. Mostly cuz I'd never considered that I had to forgive my SELF first. When I got that part, the next part was fairly easy...that I could forgive anyone for anything just as soon as I dropped all the judgments. No judgment turns into a more clear 'seeing' of stuff. That always boils down to ONE thing:
Everybody's doin' the very best they know how. Cut 'em some slack. As the ultra-beautiful Jesus of Nazareth said: 'forgive them for they know not what they do'.
Pretty clever of him, huh?
The rest of this 'story' is that today, after not seeing nor hearing from an "ex-friend" (she divorced me...and I let her)for almost 2 years, she showed up on one of those social network sites...begging forgiveness for being such a 'bee-atch' (her word, not mine). The moment I saw it, I laughed out loud. Damn! That forgiveness stuff sure does work, huh? I wrote her back pronto...and told her she'd been forgiven long, long ago. Now I'm wondering if she's forgiven herself.
Guess we'll see soon enough.